07 July 2013
When Cheating Is OK
The other day, Joan from my Drama class broke a bombshell on me and another friend.
She admitted that she cheated on her boyfriend.
See, I never had this kind of information dropped on me before. I've never been one to gossip about people's relationships, but this info-bomb was practically dropped on my head. There was never a moment that I felt that one of my friends was capable of cheating on their supposed girl/boyfriend, mainly because I never took any of them to be the cheating type. The problem that I have with this situation is that I have known this girl since we were sophomores. I never would have known that she considered it alright to cheat on her boyfriend.
Her reasoning was that because her boyfriend was in Sacramento, she needed someone who would physically be with her. This logic is both understandable and mind-boggling at the same time.
You see, I am aware of a couple of long-distance couples that have made it through and one pair, I must add, are now married. You can find their Youtube channels here and here. See, the concept of being faithful to your other half is so deeply ingrained into me by my parents that there is no way that I can see myself ever cheating on anyone, even if its long distance. For me at least, being faithful to those who are important to you are as natural as breathing and eating. I just wouldn't be able to bear it if I was the one cheating in the relationship. Like, how can you dare tell someone you love them and then turn right around to cheat?
One thing that I have pretty much trained myself to do is to try to not judge people based on one action that they have done. But in this situation, it is exceedingly hard not to judge. I basically live behind the rule that if I'm not a perfect person, I won't be going around telling people what to do or believe. Therefore, I've basically decided to treat Joan as I've treated her before. She hasn't changed from the person that I have known ever since I've moved to South Pas.
I guess Joan just had a momentary lapse in judgement as to what is acceptable and what isn't. Guess we all have those moments sometimes.